My husband and I like to drive around town looking at houses and conversing about what we like and dislike about them. This is a habit that we have kept even now that we have a home to call our own. While Lance and I are different in a lot of ways our tastes for houses is actually fairly similar. We like space, trees, front porches and cupolas. We appreciate when people work at keeping their places clean and well manicured and we always enjoy finding fun things such as a lawn ornament or a pretty flower arrangement that set homes apart. What Lance and I notice just about every time we go on a drive to look at houses is if they are unique or cookie cutter from the others around. We will never live in a home owners association, to each their own, but it is totally not our jam. We want to be able to do what we want with our property and not have our home look exactly like all the others on the block.
Much like houses I think we as people, (perhaps women especially) get caught up in this desire to be similar in an effort to not rock the boat by standing out. If we follow status quo as closely as possible we will fit in and make friends. We wont experience the bitterness of rejection and more or less life will be predictable and safe.
Psalm 139:14-16 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.
Psalm 139:14 tells us that we are wonderfully and fearfully made. Ladies that’s enough to tell us that we are not meant to be carbon copies. God created us, knit us together in our mothers womb, to be set apart and unique. To not be like our best friend or our sister or -insert whoever you may try to be like-. Amber was created to be Amber with all her imperfections and quirks and you were created to be you with your own set of imperfections and quirks. I write this post today with last Sunday, a day celebrating the sanctity of life, still fresh in my mind. Life is precious and beautiful, it is meant to be lived wholly and uniquely. God created you to be the woman He needed to fulfill His purposes in and around your life.
There is another side of this issue, which actually gave me the idea to write this post. We may realize we are unique and readily agree with the above verses found in Psalm 139, but at the same time we question if there is room to be heard because everyone else has already added their voice. For instance, in the ministry world in which I belong, people hold themselves back from reaching their full potential under the false belief that the world does not need another mommy blog or another prayer guide. I don’t know that it is as common but I am sure this happens in the business world as well. Why go into xyz career when there are already so many people doing the same?
I want to challenge and encourage you to put those lies of the enemy away. One of Satan’s biggest ways of stopping Christians in their tracks is to make them feel useless, as if they cannot add value to something because “so many others” already are … oh and look…they do a much better job of it. Want to know a secret? I myself have never heard these words uttered to me by anyone who is in my ministry sphere. I have had a ton of people thank me for what I do, a lot of people relate to me, reach out to me and follow along with my work but no one no one has ever criticized me for adding my voice. It is a lie of the enemy to stop your passion because he fears the impact you will have.
Whatever it is that you find yourself doing, whether you are a stay at home mom, a teacher, an accountant, a librarian, an author, a police officer, etc. there is a place for you, room for you. No one else can do what you do exactly as you do it. You fill a unique set of shoes and have a distinct voice given to you by your personal experiences through life, the people God has brought in and out of your life, your very walk with the Lord and your personality.
Again, I really can’t emphasize this enough – the world needs you! We need the beauty and light you alone can shine! We need you to embrace your callings and make them radiant! I cannot reach people who have walked through a divorce because I have never walked that road, you may not be able to reach people who have lost a parent. Perhaps you have a louder or quieter personality than I. The Lord will enable you to reach people through your personal set of characteristics. If you hide your light because
so many other people are already doing what I want to do there will be people who are not reached, there will be opportunities that are missed.
Go out and live your best life by giving all you can to the calling God has placed on your heart and watch Him move mountains through your obedience!
To God be the glory!