The Importance of Sharing Your Story

Hello Friends! I hope this post finds you well. I must apologize for being absent the last several weeks, I have been working on a new book, launching a podcast and gearing up to host a conference in September. It is a busy time! It is my hope to be able to write at least once a week here on the blog going forward, but we will have to see how the Lord leads. Today, I thought it would be fun to share a snippet out of Friendship Matters Cultivating Meaningful Connections in an Isolated World which is the book my best friend Rebekah Hargraves and I wrote together in 2020.




Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What? You too? I thought I was the only one! – C. S Lewis


Share Your Story

In August of 2017 I walked into our local MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group for the first time. I did not know anyone who attended, and setting foot into those doors was intimidating and out of my comfort zone. At the time, I was a hurting and scared momma. I had just recently found out I was pregnant with our “rainbow baby” (Zachariah) after miscarrying our second pregnancy earlier that spring. I didn’t know how to process being pregnant after a loss. I can only credit God for bringing me to that particular table at which I sat that morning. As we went around the table to introduce ourselves, the question of how many children we each had came up. This is not an unusual question for a mothers group; I had even halfway expected it. That morning, though, it broke me. I remember fumbling through my words as I tried to explain that I had a two-year-old, had lost a baby back in April, and was now newly pregnant with a baby I hadn’t bonded with yet—because what if I lost it, too? As I choked and sobbed through this explanation, our discussion leader—now a friend—came to my side and explained that she understood, having lost her first child to stillbirth. She wrapped her arms around me, and together we cried.

That moment of feeling understood brought me back to MOPS the next week. The more I attended, the more I learned of all that I had in common with the other ladies around our table. In time I found somewhere to belong, and all it took was one person to share their story, to wrap their arms around my shoulders, and whisper, “Me, too.”

That is something for which we all long, is it not? To be known and understood, to feel like we have a place where we belong. It is when we come alongside each other and share our stories that we break down the barriers of loneliness. God knew it was not good for us to be alone, and we see the message of Genesis 2:18 spoken throughout the Bible. In Scripture, we see widows being set in families, the barren given children, the fatherless a father, and the stranger a friend. God created us to be a communal people, and loneliness has no say in that.

In the New Living Translation, Proverbs 15:23 reads, “Everyone enjoys a fitting reply; it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time.” Countless friendships throughout history blossomed because someone said “Me too” to someone who needed to hear it. Take this as my encouragement to share your story. We see the importance of stories in the teachings of Jesus and how He taught through parables. Stories are a powerful form of connection. Sharing might not be in a way so that the whole world hears, but maybe God is calling you to share in a still, quiet way with a new face at a mom’s group who desperately needs to know that she is not alone. Ask God for opportunity and wisdom regarding when and where to share, and He will provide!

If you would like to read the rest of this book you can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Friendship-Matters-Cultivating-Meaningful-Connections/dp/1732081859/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Amber+Durgan&qid=1624597675&sr=8-1

Have a wonderful week and we will Lord willing chat soon.

  One thought on “The Importance of Sharing Your Story

  1. simplyjolayne
    June 25, 2021 at 10:37 am

    Congratulations on all of the amazing things going on in your life right now.

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    • June 25, 2021 at 10:54 am

      Thank you! It makes for super busy days but I am excited to see how God works through these endeavors! All glory to Him!

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  2. June 29, 2021 at 6:21 am

    A book and a podcast? Girl keep up the good work! I agree, sharing your story is one of the most liberating and powerful things you can do!

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    • June 29, 2021 at 9:02 am

      Thank you Laura! It is a busy summer but I am enjoying watching the Lord work!

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  3. ireneresa2
    June 29, 2021 at 12:59 pm

    Congratulations for your book.

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  4. genesissampson
    July 1, 2021 at 11:14 am

    Wow, it certainly sounds like you’ve been busy! I think you are so right about friendship, that it is all a matter of feeling understood by someone. Honestly, sometimes I don’t even need that- simply knowing that they want to try to understand is enough.

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  5. Yolanda
    July 3, 2021 at 5:54 am

    Beautiful story – thanks for sharing, and congrats on your book! Sounds like you have a lot going on – very exciting. All the best to you 🙂

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  6. July 3, 2021 at 7:59 am

    I love this! It is so important to share our story, even if it means we ugly cry in front of complete strangers. Who wants to hear stories from people where everything went right for them their entire life? That’s not moving, it’s annoying! I’m so glad you found community and friendship through MOPS and at a time when you really needed it. Congrats on your published book!

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  7. July 5, 2021 at 7:29 am

    First…virtual hugs to you, Amber! Thank you for sharing YOUR story. It is a powerful thing when we can let go and share. I’ve been friends with a neighbor for a couple of years, but always felt a distance I couldn’t quite gap. Recently, we struck up a conversation at a neighborhood mom’s event and ended up sharing all the mental health struggles our 13 year olds have gone through. We had no idea that we shared these experiences (bc it’s still so taboo) and now that distance has been closed. I’m looking forward to being there for each other in the years to come.

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    • July 5, 2021 at 2:57 pm

      I love this so much Linda! The power of story always blows me away! What a blessing to have friends with things in common.

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